Daily Archives: January 27, 2016

What I’m Loving

What I’m Loving, my youtube.com video, shows a visual representation of the five pillars of health. It also shows everything that I love: a woman’s journey–my journey–through her life and up to present day. The focus is on the move forward to a healthy and fulfilling life.

What else does the video show? The people, the things, the healthy body, and healthy mind? It shows balance. As a Libran woman, it’s an important, ever present topic to me, and you will be hearing a lot about it in this blog. The video is also something I created to show my journey of where I am at this point in my life. The filter I used in making the video is about how balance creates not only a healthy life, but a fulfilling life. I will offer my experiences and thoughts on diversity, too.

But for now, balance. It showed up very early in my life, and it showed up very early in my consciousness as a child. I look back at my family, a traditional French Canadian household with two parents and five children. I was, of course, a female by product of that household.I loved everything my mother had as a woman, and never have I wanted to give up anything as a woman. I’ve never wanted to give up, but I have wanted and did merge parts of my feminine side with characteristics that are considered masculine. My mother would have loved that.

The interesting thing is that I knew this separation in the sexes at 5 years of age. I had an awareness of watching my parents’ two lives. I knew the one I wanted to cuddle with, and knew which one was out in the world with his freedom and accolades. My mother didn’t have that freedom. She had five children to raise and a household to run. She sewed our clothes and the corsets for Roy’s Orthopedic, the family business. She worked with my father during the day, then would come home, make an amazing dinner and do our homework with us.

She would sew the corsets until two in the morning, and then start all over the next day. She ran the household, supported the business, and my father got all the recognition. It had a big effect on me emotionally. I saw no balance in this arrangement. But I am very fortunate that the times have changed and the views of women working outside of the home, of running a business, is no longer an anomaly. The question remains, though–is there any more more balance in today’s society?

Diversity Makes a Healthy Society



A healthy society gets instructed through diversity. When it’s unhealthy, you can see what causes it–people who get so structured by their upbringing that other possibilities aren’t in their horizons. When we are not flexible, informed by diversity and differences, then we are never going to be the pioneers we are capable of, and leave a legacy that generations that follow will be inspired by. White America is disappearing and it is time to understand the many colors that we co-exist with who will be part of the decision making process in our country.

That said, I live in an area that could be called white bread America. Burlington, Vermont has very little diversity in terms of race. I have always been fascinated looking at other cultures because I didn’t have to deal with the downside of race relations and strife. I wasn’t stretched and stressed like people from other areas. I come from and have a different filter that I use when I look at diversity. I have never had to deal with the harsh reality of it.

Here’s another form of diversity. Why do we enjoy eating foods that come from non-traditional eating habits? Why do we love going to a Japanese restaurant when we weren’t raised on Japanese food? Why do we love drinking Turkish coffee when we’re in New York City? Why is this important to us? What is it about that experience that creates a sense of adventure, and experimentation? One of the things I love about living in the U.S. is that sometimes just a plane, train, or car ride away you feel like you are going from one culture to another. I can go to dinner in Montreal, speak another language, be exposed to traditional Quebecois cooking, and understand the differences that foreign cultures make.

FB_20141028_11_38_54_Saved_PictureMy husband and I often have the need to feel like we are out of the country. Maybe we travel to the French Quarter in New Orleans, or Chinatown in New York City. And I think before you can move forward, you have to honor your past. This is certainly how I got to be where I am today.This is my Now: my healthy family, healthy mind, healthy finances, and healthy society. These are the inspirations that keep me wanting to grow. Mind, family, and society are the inspiration.

This Moment in Time

familyLet’s talk about balance again. I believe that we are never totally in balance, but are enriched as much when we are out of balance as we are in balance. Here’s an example: When I was a body builder at age 51, I felt the best in my life. I had the most amount of energy. I ate well, nothing jiggled when I moved. I ate perfectly, but there was no balance. My life was all about a healthy body. Everyone recognized my body and I got recognition.

But then I wanted to contribute more financially to the family, and I had to go away from the perfectly fit body. You see, at some point, you become narcissistic and everything’s about you. At 51 I knew I had accomplished what I wanted to do. But I have not had another thing that I’ve capsulized as well as that. I am in search of that. You will see lots of pictures here on my site because I’m a visual person and an artist originally.

The video shows a path. At 68 I am still on the path. I am a seeker. There is something out there that I need to bite into.